What’s with all the baby talk, people?
We’ve had the marriage/babies/let’s-grow-old together talk MANY times throughout the years. So, what’s different is that all of a sudden, other people are bringing this stuff up- mostly the one about babies.
The way people bring up babies is usually in a passing comment that almost goes undetected in the grand scheme of conversation but taken collectively, these instances warrant some attention.
Now before we get too ahead of ourselves...I love babies! I love children of all ages and stages - minus teenagers. I could careless about them but I think most people would agree with that. I’ve been babysitting and nannying and camp counseling since I was 13 so I am extremely comfortable with these adorable tiny humans. But the thing that makes all of these activities so great is that at the end of the day, I get to give them a quick hug and relinquish them back to their parental units who unconditionally love and adore them.
The problem is, I am entirely too selfish to have children right now and most days, I can barely take care of myself. While I know the baby comments are being made with the future in mind (i.e. being married), it’s just a little shocking to hear all of a sudden.
Recently I met a woman who was visiting from the South. She asked a little about me and we chatted for a bit until she asked if I was married or had children. My response was, “Oh no...I’m only 23! I’m too young to be married and have kids.” This woman just started laughing and said, “Honey, when I was your age I already had three kids!” I’ve actually had multiple conversations like this which usually end up with me looking foolish and judgmental.
|I want to have it all...just not right now.|
In the meantime, can we stop all the baby talk and just let me enjoy other people's kids for awhile longer?